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Post by Jayce on Sat Nov 28, 2015 7:28 am

So I don't use facebook actively much but I get added by some people once in a blue moon, and I'm positive I've haven't met them directly and exchanged the "do you have facebook/this is my facebook" permission. I just made the mistake of adding someone cause we have the dance teachers and friends from the dance scene as mutual friends so maybe we met at a show or a class and I forgot (though I'm sure I didn't), and now I'm getting facebook stalked by this girl who flipped through all my photos (like ones from 2013 and back, and I'm not popular on facebook so they shouldn't pop up in her newsfeed, I also haven't changed profile photos since 2013 ish), and clicked the like button. This makes me anxious and really creeped out. I don't moderate my facebook photos (like I don't care whoever takes my photos and put it on facebook so I'm sure I have very unflattering ones on there) and now, ehhh why did I add her anyway I was almost certain I haven't directly met her. I don't even mind if she's facebook stalking me, but she's facebook stalking me and letting me know about it and this is like one day after I added her. I'm sure we've never been in the same dance class either but sometimes there at least a dozen people in a class.

There is this other person that I'm sure I haven't met either, but from the dance scene cause of the mutual friends. How do people even find my facebook? I have a unique, Chinese name, I haven't met them in person, so the only way is if they stalked me all the way from the facebook group of the dance studio (which has like 500 people so they would've had to do some good, long stalking). I don't have my own crew in the dance scene so I'm sure my name is not even public knowledge and I always perform with a group of people.

The most weird thing is, if they wanted to meet me or know me, why don't they just be normal about it and message me on facebook with oh I saw you in dance class, I'm from dance class, or I watch your performances???? Instead of just adding me, so I think I've met them but I forgot. This isn't the first time it has happened either. But it is the first time I've chosen to add someone I barely even know, but from the same hobby area. Never doing it ever again.

I think the reason I'm uncomfortable with someone telling me with the like button, that they stalk me on facebook, is that my facebook isn't my highlight reel. It's more like a picture book or memory diary of fun things I did with my friends even if it's not photogenic. I never upload any photos on it except selfie profile pictures once in two years. It feels like they are reaching into more unedited parts about me and I barely know anything about them. And I always put my best face forward in real life when I present myself in person.

Does this happen to any of you?

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Post by Jayce on Sat Nov 28, 2015 11:52 am

Ok, this is getting worse, I asked if we've met before, and she replied that we have met but I have never said hi or talked with her yet. So how does that count as meeting??? We never even talked.

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Post by reboot on Sat Nov 28, 2015 12:37 pm

Definitely weird. I do not use social media, so may not be using the right terms, but you might want the restrict what she can see or maybe block her.
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Post by Wondering on Sat Nov 28, 2015 1:43 pm

It's possible she stalked you from a Facebook group, but it's also highly likely that Facebook suggested you to her as a Friend and she just clicked add. Some people click everyone that Facebook suggests.

I don't have this problem because I only add people I'm actually friends with to Facebook. And I've set myself to be unsearchable. I know this is not how most people use Facebook, though.

I would block her/unfriend her and just leave it at that.

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Post by sky on Mon Nov 30, 2015 8:44 pm

I occasionally add people that I don't really know but I see sometimes in real life, because Facebook is my chosen method of communication for people I'm not willing to give my phone number to. I pretty much never log in or post anything, so there's not much on my page for anyone to stalk.

If you unfriend or block this person now, you can always friend them again later if you do get to know each other in real life and would be comfortable having them see your page again.
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Post by BasedBuzzed on Mon Nov 30, 2015 8:56 pm

You can memory hole her easily enough by tossing her in a place where she can never see your updates through the list system. It seems to be annoying but not special, I predict you can probably see on her page she does this sort of spam behaviour to others too.

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Post by eselle28 on Wed Dec 02, 2015 4:06 pm

Sometimes people I don't know well try to add me. I think that's something some people just do in response to add suggestions, and I generally just ignore it until I get to know them well enough to want them in my news feed. The woman who went through all your old pictures and let you know about it is being kind of weird, though. You could set up a bunch of privacy settings so she can't do that in the future, but honestly, I'd just block her.
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Post by Jayce on Thu Dec 03, 2015 4:06 am

I unfriended her, I guess faecbook isn't just my way of making new friends since I prefer it to do it face to face, I mostly use facebook to organise group events, go to group events, talk to friends to set up outings, and once in a while socialise with a friend online when I can't see them.

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