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Re: Random Thoughts: The Randoming

Post by caliseivy on Fri Nov 14, 2014 4:06 pm

Can't believe I only brought half of my F*&^ing lunch for work silent
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Re: Random Thoughts: The Randoming

Post by Autumnflame on Fri Nov 14, 2014 9:44 pm

I really need to just not do anything at all for a day.

Too bad I won't get that opportunity for at least a week or two! Sad

(on the other hand DA:I comes out Tuesday wooooooooooo! Pre-loading it tonight!)
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Re: Random Thoughts: The Randoming

Post by Guest on Fri Nov 14, 2014 10:32 pm

I have a ten-hour shoot tomorrow. God help me. D:

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Post by nearly_takuan on Sun Nov 16, 2014 12:03 am

I might have to friend-zone this one, and soon... unless I'm totally misinterpreting the tea leaves.

  • Offers me a ride home, has me hang out and shoot the shit with her until the last train leaves, then insists we should go walk along the waterfront, plus other similar activities that add up to about four hours past the time our other friends already went home.
  • Expresses multiple times in multiple ways that she doesn't "get" why girls her age don't go for nerd guys.
  • Repeatedly steers the conversational subject toward sexuality/dating/etc, before asking me point-blank if I'm gay or what.
  • After I attempt to explain asexuality, asks clarifying questions and poses hypothetical situations along the lines of "but you're not a real asexual, right?"
  • Also turns out she knows another asexual dude who's super flirty but adamantly refuses to have sex or share an emotional burden with his (sexual, monogamous, jealous) girlfriend. Sounds incredibly toxic to me. (I said so.)
  • She also talks at length about how silly it is that people our age spend so much time angsting over relationships etc. when there's more to life...but this is after the asexuality stuff came up, so I question how much she meant what she said, and how much she understood what I said....

Reasons I wouldn't necessarily want to date her, if that is actually what she's getting at:

  • As a regular-friend she is already very demanding on my time and acts offended when I do not want to or simply cannot attend whatever thing with her. This is the edge of the upper bound on what I will put up with from pretty much anyone, Significant Other or not.
  • She likes screaming and other loud, impassioned forms of venting when she is upset. Google Navigation upsets her. Also, she will not consider alternatives to using Google Navigation.
  • While not inherently exploitative, her attitude toward nerd-boys seems to include a view that we generally have low self-esteem and in particular disbelief when other people do express interest (which is true enough) but also that a girl who goes out with one could somehow "fix" the most obviously negative traits associated with that while still benefiting from the absolute loyalty of a man who believes he has no other options. (Ew.)

Though, on the other hand, I suppose

  • I get to play Defender of Feminism when she says things like that.

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Re: Random Thoughts: The Randoming

Post by Robjection on Sun Nov 16, 2014 8:59 am

In all honesty nearly, it sounds like you'd be best off not dating her, regardless of whether you're misinterpreting the tea-leaves or not. The bullet point about her attitude toward nerd-boys seems particularly troublesome.

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Re: Random Thoughts: The Randoming

Post by nearly_takuan on Sun Nov 16, 2014 9:15 am

I mean, there's another even bigger bullet point I missed the first time around, which is
  • I don't want to

Mostly I was just feeling anxious about possibly having to talk to her about it in the first place but I might have to do that anyway 'cause having to make guesses about what this means or that is annoying too (which wasn't a problem the other night but I don't see how I can avoid doing that now that I've gone and thought about it).
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Re: Random Thoughts: The Randoming

Post by Werel on Sun Nov 16, 2014 5:32 pm

nearly_takuan wrote:I mean, there's another even bigger bullet point I missed the first time around, which is

  • I don't want to


cheers

Everything described sounds exactly like she was (clumsily) testing the romantic/sexual waters with you, and backpedaling furiously when she found that the waters were not receptive to her taking a dip.

But the "not a real asexual?" query, not to mention the "nerdboys as a static monolith which I can manipulate to predictable, self-benefiting effect" attitude, is all it takes to kill my feelings of "aww this poor girl just likes you" and send me into major side-eye mode. You seem to have way too good a head on your shoulders to be at any risk of being taken in, but I'm sorry you have to deal with the awkwardness of shutting her down.

(and then there's the discomfort of seeing someone who shares my surface-level preferences expressing all the creepy, terribly problematic ideas that I'm terrified of being perceived as espousing... you're making us all look bad, lady...)
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Re: Random Thoughts: The Randoming

Post by Guest on Mon Nov 17, 2014 3:19 am

With all the toe-stubbings that occur in the world, you'd think we'd have evolved more durable toes by now.

I don't know if people in other families are as nonchalant when it comes to farting; there's no dignity here whatsoever. Also, why are your sneezes so violent?

If I could control the internet for a week, I think I'd delete all porn and watch the world plunge into chaos.

I thinks it's unfair that we don't thank our mods and regular advice-givers enough for their time, empathy and general hard work on these forums. It's a bit pathetic that this Toad can only come up with "Thanks". Neutral

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Re: Random Thoughts: The Randoming

Post by The Wisp on Mon Nov 17, 2014 3:37 am

Just like every other year, between October 31st and January 1st, I find myself unable to resist eating unhealthy amounts of sugary treats. Today I had two big scoops of ice cream and two cookies. Halloween leftovers seamlessly blends into winter treats like cookies and egg nog and peppermint ice cream in this period.
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Re: Random Thoughts: The Randoming

Post by Guest on Mon Nov 17, 2014 3:43 am

Turns out I had TWO 10-hour shoots with the internship.

Still dope as hell. I loved every minute of it.

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Re: Random Thoughts: The Randoming

Post by username_6916 on Mon Nov 17, 2014 4:50 am

Every time I see reboot's avatar, I think "Evil Poland?".

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Re: Random Thoughts: The Randoming

Post by Guest on Mon Nov 17, 2014 7:13 am

I think: "Hail Hydra!".

Laverne Cox is a goddess among women and I want to be her when I grow up.

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Re: Random Thoughts: The Randoming

Post by Guest on Tue Nov 18, 2014 10:48 pm

It seems that I get really triggered when reading conversations surrounding 'height' on the main site.

I'm not sure how to defuse this reaction, beyond just taking a break.

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Re: Random Thoughts: The Randoming

Post by nearly_takuan on Tue Nov 18, 2014 10:58 pm

Even though I know only bad things would come out of it, sometimes I feel like I should wear a sign that says I'm a 24-year-old professional with two degrees. I do all the cooking and cleaning and most of the errands for my apartment. Because these are all things that female friends-of-friends, barbers, and my own maternal grandmother don't seem to understand.
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Re: Random Thoughts: The Randoming

Post by eselle28 on Tue Nov 18, 2014 11:43 pm

Gamergate is now in bed with Jack Thompson.

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Re: Random Thoughts: The Randoming

Post by The Wisp on Wed Nov 19, 2014 12:07 am

eselle28 wrote:Gamergate is now in bed with Jack Thompson.

I would think GGers of all people would hate him.
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Post by Guest on Wed Nov 19, 2014 12:10 am

eselle28 wrote:Gamergate is now in bed with Jack Thompson.


You can't be serious?

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Post by eselle28 on Wed Nov 19, 2014 12:20 am

The Wisp wrote:
eselle28 wrote:Gamergate is now in bed with Jack Thompson.

I would think GGers of all people would hate him.

You'd think, but he criticized Anita Sarkeesian (by invoking of all things the First Amendment), and there you go.
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Re: Random Thoughts: The Randoming

Post by reboot on Wed Nov 19, 2014 2:12 am

username_6916 wrote:Every time I see reboot's avatar, I think "Evil Poland?".

Excellent, join us....

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Re: Random Thoughts: The Randoming

Post by Robjection on Wed Nov 19, 2014 6:19 am

I'm not surprised by the fact that, on this forum about a game in beta, there are threads with people trying to sell you something.

I am surprised by the fact that what they're trying to sell is kitchens.

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Re: Random Thoughts: The Randoming

Post by nearly_takuan on Wed Nov 19, 2014 6:20 am

Has everyone else been getting like one bot message per week in the last month too, or have they just gotten better at finding profiles that are active but un-viewed?

(They definitely haven't gotten better at not making it really obvious that they're phishing-bots, of course. Even visitors to this area generally don't refer to it by name, because the metro area it's in proximity of is much more relevant. But even without that...sending an invitation to use an instant messaging system via instant message, and offering "p ics"? Seriously? How is this a working business model?)
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Re: Random Thoughts: The Randoming

Post by BasedBuzzed on Wed Nov 19, 2014 8:57 am

eselle28 wrote:
The Wisp wrote:
eselle28 wrote:Gamergate is now in bed with Jack Thompson.

I would think GGers of all people would hate him.

You'd think, but he criticized Anita Sarkeesian (by invoking of all things the First Amendment), and there you go.

The Dork Enlightenment dudes use him to point out that he also received death/rape threats and there wasn't a massive backlash against those other than the obligatory condemnations and disappointment in the tone of the conversation. This is legit, but ultimately moot as it's the standard "we quoque so stop whining" spiel. Jack heavily motte-and-baileys his position into hold-yourself-to-the-ratings, something really nobody can really disagree with. His freeze peach argument isn't that weird for him, as he considers "influence kids into violence" harmful speech, but "influence kids into traditional gender roles" not.

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Re: Random Thoughts: The Randoming

Post by reboot on Fri Nov 21, 2014 2:21 pm

Dude, really. I have coughed up scarier things than you. You want to threaten? Bring it on. I double, triple dog dare you.
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Re: Random Thoughts: The Randoming

Post by Hae on Fri Nov 21, 2014 7:49 pm

Robjection wrote:I'm not surprised by the fact that, on this forum about a game in beta, there are threads with people trying to sell you something.

I am surprised by the fact that what they're trying to sell is kitchens.

Kitchen spambot attacks on forums inspired creepypasta master slimebeast to write this story: http://www.slimebeast.com/stories/in_the_kitchen.php

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Re: Random Thoughts: The Randoming

Post by nearly_takuan on Sat Nov 22, 2014 1:04 am

I save every message I get. Someday, I want to get one of those emails saying my box is full and I have to delete something. I bet more than half of those will have phone numbers.

Wax paper is made of wax, and rice paper is made of rice, but toilet paper is just made of paper. Paper wasps are made of suffering.

I have a friend who seemingly quotes Allie Brosh daily. "All the things" is his favorite expression. I quote Brosh daily, too, but only to myself. My favorite is "I don't want to kill myself, I just want to become dead somehow."

It's weird how people often forget to misspell a proper name and thus spell it wrong. "Froot Loops." Not fruit loops.

They said I could expect to hear back from them in two weeks, but that was eight days ago! Oh. Right.
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