What if you DON'T have romantic intentions?
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What if you DON'T have romantic intentions?
I'm wondering how to make it clear, in a non-creepy way, that I don't have romantic intentions.
There is this woman I like and with whom I would like to hang out in a strictly platonic sense, and she seems to like me (in a non-romantic way) as well. However, I'm worried that proposing to grab a coffee or whatever, to take the friendship to the next level as it were, will scare her off because she'll assume it to be an (unwanted) romantic "date" proposal.
How do I make clear that I'm not looking for a date? I have the feeling that saying "let's grab a coffee, and by the way, this is not a date" will just sound creepy.
Thanks.
There is this woman I like and with whom I would like to hang out in a strictly platonic sense, and she seems to like me (in a non-romantic way) as well. However, I'm worried that proposing to grab a coffee or whatever, to take the friendship to the next level as it were, will scare her off because she'll assume it to be an (unwanted) romantic "date" proposal.
How do I make clear that I'm not looking for a date? I have the feeling that saying "let's grab a coffee, and by the way, this is not a date" will just sound creepy.
Thanks.
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Re: What if you DON'T have romantic intentions?
You could say you'd like to get together for "friendly" coffee.
At the coffee you could re-iterate that you are looking at expanding your circles of friends, partners in whatever activity you are into. Or looking for a regular friendly platonic coffee date every Tuesday after class, etc. Don't make it a formal declaration, just weave it into conversation.
At the coffee you could re-iterate that you are looking at expanding your circles of friends, partners in whatever activity you are into. Or looking for a regular friendly platonic coffee date every Tuesday after class, etc. Don't make it a formal declaration, just weave it into conversation.
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Re: What if you DON'T have romantic intentions?
I agree with DrTovsh. It might sound a little silly to say, but saying, "Want to do a friend coffee date?" is up front and makes things not awkward
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Re: What if you DON'T have romantic intentions?
Thanks for the replies. We don't speak English to each other over here, though, and it's not immediately obvious to me how to convey "friendly/friend coffee date" in our language I'll think about the best way to put it.
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