Bumble, ¿is it any good?
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Bumble, ¿is it any good?
So, I've heard a little about this dating app called "Bumble" where apparently conversation can only be initiated by the female members. Since I struggle a lot with mantaining conversations and generating interest when I'm the initiator/women act passively, I've thought this one could work well for me.
But I'm a little wary, both because it asks for my phone number to register, and because the last site with a similar conceit I tried turned out to be overloaded.
So, what are your experiences with this app? Is it good? Is it easy to use? Is it a scam?
But I'm a little wary, both because it asks for my phone number to register, and because the last site with a similar conceit I tried turned out to be overloaded.
So, what are your experiences with this app? Is it good? Is it easy to use? Is it a scam?
Hielario- Posts : 310
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Re: Bumble, ¿is it any good?
While I haven't used Bumble, I've read their website. They encourage women to send really low effort messages (i.e, "Hi"). On regular dating sites, 99% of the messages that I got were very generic messages like that, and those sites had good advice articles about how to write a first message, so I really cringe at the thought of a site that encourages people to send generic messages. It could be even worse there.
However, I know that generic messages don't bother everyone, so if you're not the type to sigh if you get a "Hi" or "How are you?" this won't apply.
If you're still willing to try dating in person, would you be open to going to a more structured activity, where you could make conversation about the activity during or after it? For example, my city has a Meetup for people to watch films and then go to a restaurant after to discuss the film.
It's okay if you want to date in a black and white way in which one person has the pursuer role, and the other the pursued role, but could you consider something in the middle? I read comments on some old Doctor Nerdlove articles about this. For example, one person will start a conversation with someone, and if the person doesn't ask her a question about herself at some point, she'll disengage. Another person looks for back and forth escalations, such as if she approaches a guy, but then he asks her out.
However, I know that generic messages don't bother everyone, so if you're not the type to sigh if you get a "Hi" or "How are you?" this won't apply.
If you're still willing to try dating in person, would you be open to going to a more structured activity, where you could make conversation about the activity during or after it? For example, my city has a Meetup for people to watch films and then go to a restaurant after to discuss the film.
It's okay if you want to date in a black and white way in which one person has the pursuer role, and the other the pursued role, but could you consider something in the middle? I read comments on some old Doctor Nerdlove articles about this. For example, one person will start a conversation with someone, and if the person doesn't ask her a question about herself at some point, she'll disengage. Another person looks for back and forth escalations, such as if she approaches a guy, but then he asks her out.
littlebluedove- Posts : 42
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Re: Bumble, ¿is it any good?
I don't have any problem with simple starters, so i'll be OK. It's not a marker of being uninteresting in my experience.
To answer your next question, I'd be fine, but trying to meet people through organized activities has been a gamble in my experience. Thanks for reminding me about meetup, though.
To answer your next question, I'd be fine, but trying to meet people through organized activities has been a gamble in my experience. Thanks for reminding me about meetup, though.
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Hielario- Posts : 310
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Sorry for the flood, but I'd really like to know if anyone has heard anything about how secure they are. I'm very careful with my data after finding out a charity org had gotten my number from somewhere else.
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Hielario- Posts : 310
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Re: Bumble, ¿is it any good?
Here's the single question you need to answer to be able to use Bumble, as far as I know there's been no data leaks:
1. Do you look like a supermodel?
If no, get rid of the app. And I am not exaggerating, that might as well be Zoolander's dating app. As invisible as I am on Tinder, I've gotten matches every so often, every blue moon, even looking like myself. This applies to both genders, it is very egalitarian in the way that you better be a 10/10 looks wise.
1. Do you look like a supermodel?
If no, get rid of the app. And I am not exaggerating, that might as well be Zoolander's dating app. As invisible as I am on Tinder, I've gotten matches every so often, every blue moon, even looking like myself. This applies to both genders, it is very egalitarian in the way that you better be a 10/10 looks wise.
Glides- Posts : 231
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Re: Bumble, ¿is it any good?
So, people on it are pickier than the ones on Tinder about looks. Got it.
Maybe if my self-esteem ever recovers or I end up on my supposedly ideal weight.
Maybe if my self-esteem ever recovers or I end up on my supposedly ideal weight.
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