Do my friends really like me....... depressed and frustrated

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Do my friends really like me....... depressed and frustrated

Post by bitboy1993 on Mon Mar 27, 2017 8:26 pm

I've just been out with a few work friends and while I enjoyed it I really do feel that deep down I'm not part of the group. It's a group of two guys and two girls who all work together at the same shop. I feel my guy friend is just better than me in almost every way. I feel that the others love hanging out with him while I just happen to be there......

It's my early birthday party on Saturday and while they are all coming I feel it's more to see each other and I just happen to be running it.  They all seem excited about it but deep down I feel like a bit of afterthought. Maybe I'm just overthinking it but I do feel like none of them would really miss me if I moved away or something......

I guess I'm just a bit frustrated and depressed about the whole thing. The conversation of virginity loss came up and while they talked about the times they all lost there's no one asked me. Being a virgin I must admit I was relived but at the same time strangely hurt, It felt like none of them really have any interest in my life(I know I'm thinking crazy but still..) . My guy friend know's i'm a virgin and the girls might suspect the same thing. They do talk to me but sometimes I wonder if they will just move on without me.

lol sorry I'm just really down about the whole thing. Sometimes I question why anyone of them are friends with me....Might just be the depression talking but I don't really know....

(Sorry if writing is a bit of a mess)
(Not really checking it tonight.)

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Post by Hirundo Bos on Mon Mar 27, 2017 9:02 pm

Well, not knowing your friends I can't say for sure if it's just the depression talking, but it does sound like exactly the kind of thing that depression is prone to say.
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Post by Enail on Mon Mar 27, 2017 9:09 pm

It sounds like they're actively choosing to do things with you, and they may have sensed that you wouldn't be comfortable with the virginity question and didn't ask you because of that, so I suspect you're overthinking it.
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Post by Werel on Mon Mar 27, 2017 9:48 pm

Yeah, those suspicions sound very much like the kinds of things depression will tell you. They're spending time with you, voluntarily and repeatedly-- if they didn't like you, they wouldn't. There's nothing to be gained from comparing yourself to the other dude; take their friendship at face value and enjoy hanging out with them.
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Re: Do my friends really like me....... depressed and frustrated

Post by bitboy1993 on Tue Mar 28, 2017 4:39 pm

Thank you for the responses everyone has given me a lot to think about. I'm just going to see how Saturday goes and try to not let my thinking affect me. I do still wonder if I'm really part of the group, as when I speak in are chat I do feel like I'm sometimes ignored or the conversation tends to end faster when I'm making the conversation. That said I could be just overthinking again

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