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Post by Gotoku 2017 on Sat Jun 24, 2017 6:45 pm

A work friend of mine is having his birthday tonight and has more or less invited everyone out. I was originally invited but then.... I don't know....now I'm not. The friend asked if I wanted to go even telling me some ideas he had, I said I might be free but to let me know when the plans had been finalized. Afterwards I did not see him for two weeks or hear anything about it until today which was the night of the party. Basically my friends have all gone out with him and even made the plans right in front of me at lunch. While no one directly said so....it was clear I was no longer invited......so yea...

I guess does anyone have any ideas over what happened?
Should I have said something? My dad said I should have got in contact with him
Just feel really crap about the whole thing.

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Post by Enail on Sat Jun 24, 2017 7:46 pm

Are you sure he wasn't just assuming you knew you're invited, since you'd talked about it before? People often flake on letting everyone know the specifics but assume people will check in if they want to come.
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Post by Gotoku 2017 on Sat Jun 24, 2017 8:28 pm

Maybe....but the way they spoke about it I was not invited.....I asked what he was doing and he then mentioned he was going out with a friends and that's all he said.....almost like the first invite had never happend. my friends all talked about meeting up and talked plans with no hesitation in front off me...was very clear I was not invited I think

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Post by Enail on Sat Jun 24, 2017 9:24 pm

That's too bad, sorry that happened. If you're sure you've been actively not-invited, it doesn't seem like there'd be much to be gained by asking him about it.
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Post by Gotoku 2017 on Sun Jun 25, 2017 10:55 am

To be honest I don't know...my dad said my lack of answer might have been taken as a no....i guess it's not knowing why that bothers me. Everyone's acting normal around me....being friendly and stuff so I have no idea

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Post by Enail on Sun Jun 25, 2017 1:21 pm

I think your dad has a good point, and things don't sound clear to me that it was an intentional snubbing. I think if it were me, I'd probably just assume you got some wires crossed or something and that nothing's changed between you unless you get further indications they're wanting to dial things back with you, and just let it go, rather than make a thing out of it.
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