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Post by Glides on Thu Sep 28, 2017 2:35 pm

Yeah it's actually over now. Have spent the past few days hurriedly sending out applications literally everywhere, so far not one response.

I have no idea what to do now. I'm stuck. I'm slowly regressing into the person I was and I don't like him.

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Re: Officially unemployed

Post by Datelessman on Thu Sep 28, 2017 7:18 pm

Glides wrote:Yeah it's actually over now. Have spent the past few days hurriedly sending out applications literally everywhere, so far not one response.

I have no idea what to do now. I'm stuck. I'm slowly regressing into the person I was and I don't like him.

I've been where you were and I agree, it can be easy to become depressed and regressive when your economic situation takes a major it. I was unemployed from 2009 to about mid 2011, and my unemployment ran out on Christmas week, 2010. The period after was very grim; I thought of suicide many times. So first off, I want you to know that you're not alone and feeling negative things right now is normal.

Unfortunately, finding a job is never easy and I doubt it's any easier. You're sending out applications, that's good. If you worked on the books (i.e. W2, paid taxes) for at least 20 weeks, you should be able to collect unemployment insurance. Even if you were an independent contractor, some areas may still accept it if you were still an employee. It may take 1-2 weeks to kick in even if you're accepted, and at best its a stopgap. But if it is an option, take it. After a month you should be able to apply for other social services like food stamps; some states and cities vary so research these options. I understand not finding joy in this; I once had to have a friend almost beg me to apply for unemployment after a month. Applying for these services is also tedious and deliberately made to be frustrating, even in blue states. Just remember that your taxes pay into these for people who need them.

As for sending applications online, I don't have many suggestions. Few places even allow physical off-the-street applications anymore, despite what baby boomers insist. My only suggestion is be willing to be flexible regarding the types of jobs you want. Ideally you apply for ones in similar fields or industries as your current one, or one which caters to any degrees, licenses, or certifications you have. But be willing to expand your horizons just so you can apply to more places. It's a numbers game.

More importantly, you need word of mouth. While you may be feeling dark thoughts and even shame, in the post-Recession economy this is the new normal. Few people work at fewer than 5 places in their careers anymore. Therefore, while it may feel embarrassing to admit to losing your job to friends or family, you absolutely need them. Warm leads are better than cold ones. You never know which pal or cousin or etc. knows someone who knows someone about a gig. It's an option which is utterly crucial.

Above all, as grueling and grinding as it may be, you should do your best to remind yourself of your good qualities, traits, and accomplishments. Even a job you loved is an aspect of you, not your whole identity. When and if you can, allow yourself downtime to relax. Pursue hobbies as best you can. Hang with friends on weekends beyond networking, allow them to try to soothe you. I know personally that none of this is easy, but it's what I learned from my period of unemployment and I hope it helps. Sad
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Re: Officially unemployed

Post by Werel on Thu Sep 28, 2017 8:40 pm

Uggggh. I'm sorry, dude.

This may be pretty useless advice for your career path (can you... be a volunteer filmmaker? Surely there are some kind of community film initiatives or do-gooder wings of production companies?), but I can't tell you how often volunteering has led directly to employment for me/people in my social networks. I got my last job when I applied for, and didn't get, a position at an organization; since I had nothing better to do anyway, I asked to volunteer with them, and was subsequently hired within two months. Tons of similar stories from people I know: if you're willing to put in some time working for free, showing off your skills to the people directly in charge of hiring, your odds of being offered a Real Job there shoot through the roof.

Also, if a scattergun approach to applying to jobs is leaving you feeling discouraged and exhausted, maybe consider trying narrowing down your focus for a bit? Pick out three or four jobs each week which seem like a really good fit for you, and take the time to give full attention to crafting a really tailored application for each of them. Even if that doesn't immediately result in interviews, it'll help you sharpen your cover letter/application skills, and maybe stave off job-hunting burnout a while longer.

Good luck. Sending you good vibes, obvs.
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