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Post by azazel on Sun Nov 30, 2014 5:06 am

I'm curious what your experiences are with people examining your junk?
Do you go to same sex doctors? If you don't, do you notice any differences?

I probably have to make an appointment in the near future, but I can choose between extreme awkwardness or just plain suckiness. Yay.

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Post by Mel on Sun Nov 30, 2014 8:56 am

My GP does my annual physical, including the gynaecological stuff, and he's opposite sex. If I was going to go to a specialist just for that, I'd probably pick a woman because I'd feel slightly more comfortable, but he's a great doctor in general so it's no big deal. I'm not sure what you mean by noticing any differences? (Differences between what?)
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Re: Gynaecology/Andrology

Post by reboot on Sun Nov 30, 2014 12:18 pm

I have had both male and female gyns and male and female techs for mammograms and have not noticed any difference in quality of care. I am pretty uninhibited when it comes to talking about medical concerns and am overall OK being naked in front of people, so I did not feel awkward around any of them.

Do you worry that your care will be worse or that you will be unable to openly discuss your concerns because of gender?
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Post by kleenestar on Sun Nov 30, 2014 1:48 pm

I've always had female gynecologists until this whole pregnancy thing, where I've been seeing two different doctors (one male, one female) in the same practice. I don't feel awkward, and I don't notice any difference in quality of care. They're there to do a job and they both do it well!
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Post by OneTrueGuest on Sun Nov 30, 2014 1:54 pm

I too have been treated by both and have not had an issue with either. I think it's about the professionalism of the doctor, the ability of the doctor to put you at ease, not the gender.

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Re: Gynaecology/Andrology

Post by nearly_takuan on Sun Nov 30, 2014 2:08 pm

I've only been examined in that region once, for a sports physical, by a male doctor, and he did act kind of weird/embarrassed about it. Since then it hasn't really cone up; I don't visit physicians often for financial reasons, and when I do I don't ask and they don't offer. With the exception of Ms. Are-You-Sexually-Active-Really-Are-You-Sure, whose line of questioning did not lead to an examination due to her asking the wrong questions.
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Re: Gynaecology/Andrology

Post by Guest on Sun Nov 30, 2014 2:24 pm

The one time I felt shy with a doctor was when I was 7 or 8 years old and my pediatrician at the time was a pretty lady. Razz

After that, most of my doctors have been all been dudes, all of them very good.

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Post by eselle28 on Sun Nov 30, 2014 5:51 pm

I've generally gone to same-sex obgyns, in part because it felt more comfortable and in part because there are more of them, but I've seen a few male doctors as well. The only time it was ever uncomfortable was once at Planned Parenthood when the randomly assigned doctor was a very attractive guy around my age - and that discomfort went away once he started talking to me and it was clear it was just like any other pap smear. The other uncomfortable experience I've had with an obgyn was with a woman, and that was mostly just because she was an asshole and a lousy doctor.
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Re: Gynaecology/Andrology

Post by azazel on Sun Nov 30, 2014 7:51 pm

Mel wrote:My GP does my annual physical, including the gynaecological stuff, and he's opposite sex. If I was going to go to a specialist just for that, I'd probably pick a woman because I'd feel slightly more comfortable, but he's a great doctor in general so it's no big deal. I'm not sure what you mean by noticing any differences?  (Differences between what?)

Just... differences in how they act? What questions they ask? Judging stares maybe?

reboot wrote:I have had both male and female gyns and male and female techs for mammograms and have not noticed any difference in quality of care. I am pretty uninhibited when it comes to talking about medical concerns and am overall OK being naked in front of people, so I did not feel awkward around any of them.

Do you worry that your care will be worse or that you will be unable to openly discuss your concerns because of gender?

Well, this is all because I've got the feeling that men are trained to see Dick as the enemy, and if you accidentally look at one that doesn't belong to you, you either turn gay or get lynched by the owner. End result: Men don't want to look at dicks, even if it's necessary.

I'm trying to figure out whether this societal message was also reflected in the attitude of a doctor I was seeing, or that he was just an isolated shitty doctor.
And because he's about the only male doctor at my practice as far as I know, it doesn't really matter what the cause is, if I want to avoid him I'm gonna have to see a female doctor either way. So I'm hoping that by reading your stories how opposite sex doctors were really professional alleviate some of my worries about the awkwardness of being forced to go that route.

The Mikey wrote:The one time I felt shy with a doctor was when I was 7 or 8 years old and my pediatrician at the time was a pretty lady. Razz

After that, most of my doctors have been all been dudes, all of them very good.

But did any of those ever have to inspect your junk? And how was their attitude about it?

nearly_takuan wrote:I've only been examined in that region once, for a sports physical, by a male doctor, and he did act kind of weird/embarrassed about it. Since then it hasn't really cone up; I don't visit physicians often for financial reasons, and when I do I don't ask and they don't offer. With the exception of Ms. Are-You-Sexually-Active-Really-Are-You-Sure, whose line of questioning did not lead to an examination due to her asking the wrong questions.

Ohhh those questions are going to be fun Grin "fun" defined as horrible, obviously.
I like having issues that should've been apparent 10 years ago already.

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Post by kleenestar on Sun Nov 30, 2014 7:59 pm

Ah, so you're looking for insights that might make you less anxious?

A close friend of mine just did a residency stint in urology, meaning, handling a lot of dicks. I emailed her to ask what it was like. She said that after the first three days, she wasn't really seeing them as dicks anymore. The closest analogy she could come up with was the way chess players stop seeing individual pieces and start seeing board positions. So I think as long as you're not getting a rank newcomer, you should be fine.

I also get to hear a lot of patient stories from the various doctors in my life, and basically unless you are a total ass to the doctor, you won't be the weirdest or most awkward thing they've seen that week. You cannot believe the weird shit doctors see. If you're going in for a routine checkup, you won't stand out unless you really try.

Are either of those perspectives helpful?

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Added: I almost forgot! A friend of mine from high school is now a very successful urologist. He is so proud of helping men with their penises - he does a lot of fertility and erectile dysfunction work, and he sees it as a way of making men's lives better. And yes, he's straight. He just sees it as his contribution to bringing more healthy masculinity into the world.
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Re: Gynaecology/Andrology

Post by reboot on Sun Nov 30, 2014 8:04 pm

My guess is your guy was an isolated, shitty doctor. A good doctor will never show judgment ( it makes patients clam up on what could be important risk behaviors or symptoms). A good doctor also has no squeamishness or fears about body parts. I mean do you really think male urologists are afraid to touch another man's package? It is all just plumbing to them.
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Re: Gynaecology/Andrology

Post by azazel on Mon Dec 01, 2014 7:27 am

Ha, false alarm! everything is normal! I don't have to subject myself to awkwardness, yay!

And I *think* that if I have to ever visit a female doctor about dickissues I can actually do that without awkwardness now.

Thanks for your perspectives guys/gals!

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Re: Gynaecology/Andrology

Post by Guest on Mon Dec 01, 2014 12:56 pm

Yay! Glad to hear, but if I had to answer your question, most of the doctors were very chill.

"Drop yer pants, turn your head and cough" kind of attitude. Razz

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