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Post by Guest on Sat Jan 24, 2015 3:48 pm

Good Men Project article

So anyway, I was just reading this article and the entire time, I was repeatedly nodding my head like "yup yup yup, that's me to a T." Explains perfectly what dating is like for me and why it's so fucking difficult to me.

I really wish there was a cure, because I'm sick and tired of being different from everyone else. People have jokingly asked "are you autistic or something?" in response to something really stupid I accidentally did because I misread signals, and I'll just pretend to go along with it.

I mean, yes, I am autistic, but whenever someone learns that about me, they treat me like a monkey. Like I'm some kind of science experiment.

And it's even tougher with this whole self-diagnosis craze to get attention, where people say they're "so autistic" whenever they feel awkward. People do that a lot, it's like driving a nail into my brain every time.

This line in particular got me: "Life for me is like not knowing 2/3rds of the rules and having to learn them the hard way while everyone else instinctively knows them all."

And I'm sick and tired of that, because I want to connect with people, I want something meaningful, and I'm increasingly realizing that it's my dumb stupid deformed brain that's preventing me from getting anything like that. I mean, geez, most neckbeards and red pillers are autistic, I'm basically their less retarded cousin. I'm more closely related to them than I am to a normal human being.

I'm just saying, being less than human sucks ass. Really really sucks. And reading this article made me feel really sad, because all I want to be is a human being.

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Post by Guest on Sat Jan 24, 2015 5:18 pm

Glides, I really don't want to pile on, and I know you didn't mean it this way, but as someone on the spectrum, and who has kids on the spectrum, could you not say people on the spectrum aren't human? :-/

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Post by Hirundo Bos on Sat Jan 24, 2015 5:23 pm

Glides, I didn't know you were autistic! I have the same not derformed, but differently calibrated kind of brain myself. I'm sorry people treat you as a science experiment because of it, and I can imagine why it would make you reluctant to talk about it.

I... have learned a lot thing these last years that might soon make me able to date with Asperger's, although I'm not quite sure I can put words to it... I could try to adress specific questions if you or anyone else are interested... But I can say with the author of the article that while it's hard, it's not exactly impossible.


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Post by Werel on Sat Jan 24, 2015 5:27 pm

<mod> Glides, folks with autism are not less than human, and saying so (even if primarily self-directed) is not cool. No more of that, please! </mod>
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