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Post by Glides Mon May 31, 2021 1:42 pm

i feel like i'm falling through the cracks of everyone else's lives. it feels next to impossible to get a response from anyone. i spend most days alone since the pandemic and it's one of the many things getting to me. bringing me back to high school where i almost never had any friends. i've made many attempts to connect with people online and that's just not cutting it. the people i knew before largely created new lives without me and don't have time for me. so i'm at a loss. again.

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Post by Enail Mon May 31, 2021 2:48 pm

It sucks, but try not assume too much about what lack of communication during the pandemic means. A lot of people I know have said they've been struggling to even text a hi to friends, that they fully want to continue being friends with, even if they're worried that not staying in touch now will damage that possibility. For me, I've been failing at it pretty miserably lately even with the people who live alone so I've been trying really hard to stay connected with, some of it is because it's people I don't normally text a ton with and we get on better in person than in text, but also some of it's because I see a message and am just like "no. that's not a thing I can deal with now," even while missing the person the message is from. It's not that I've built a life without them and am too busy for them now.

I'm not sure why, but something about this whole situation makes it really hard to maintain communication, maybe just the increased stress + boredom for people at home/ stress and maybe resentment or just feeling separated from people at home for people who are still working in person. Almost everyone's struggling in some way or another, even if it's not visible.

So, once you're protected enough your region is doing well enough that you feel okay to meet up with people again, do give a try getting together with people who've dropped off. I really think there's a good chance they'll still very much want to be friends. Of course, coming off of a year+ of pandemic, a lot of people are going to be accustomed to less social time and have too many people they want to see, so I'm sure at the start everyone's going to be struggling to balance fitting in seeing friends without burning out or overwhelming themselves, so it might still be tricky for a while. But this disruption doesn't necessarily mean an end to friendships.
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