Re: Possible revelations.

by WJMorris3 Sun Apr 10, 2016 9:32 pm

Friend of mine set me up on a date last night. The lady and I were to meet at a bar.

The lady never showed, and my friend chastised me for believing any woman would want to date a guy like me.

Ugh.

by Wondering Sun Apr 10, 2016 11:22 pm

That...doesn't sound like a friend.

by WJMorris3 Sun Apr 10, 2016 11:26 pm

As far as I can tell, he's a friend, he's usually at the very least nice to me. As far as I know, he's only looking out for my best interests.

by **eselle28** Sun Apr 10, 2016 11:55 pm

WJMorris3 wrote:As far as I can tell, he's a friend, he's usually at the very least nice to me. As far as I know, he's only looking out for my best interests.

Doesn't sound like it. If, for whatever reason, he believes that you're someone no one would want to date, he shouldn't be attempting to set you up with women.

by Guest Mon Apr 11, 2016 12:04 am

WJMorris3 wrote:Friend of mine set me up on a date last night. The lady and I were to meet at a bar.

The lady never showed, and my friend chastised me for believing any woman would want to date a guy like me.

Ugh.

Well shit.

And why in the fuck would he chastise you for her not showing up?! confused

by WJMorris3 Mon Apr 11, 2016 12:25 am

The Mikey wrote:
WJMorris3 wrote:Friend of mine set me up on a date last night. The lady and I were to meet at a bar.

The lady never showed, and my friend chastised me for believing any woman would want to date a guy like me.

Ugh.

Well shit.

And why in the fuck would he chastise you for her not showing up?!

I've got no idea. All I know is I probably did something wrong and I don't know what it is.

by **Werel** Mon Apr 11, 2016 12:34 am

Maybe. Or this guy is being a jerk for some reason. Were you in contact with the date before you were supposed to meet her?

by WJMorris3 Mon Apr 11, 2016 12:41 am

Werel wrote:Maybe. Or this guy is being a jerk for some reason. Were you in contact with the date before you were supposed to meet her?

No I was not.

by Guest Mon Apr 11, 2016 12:45 am

WJMorris3 wrote:
I've got no idea. All I know is I probably did something wrong and I don't know what it is.

Heh, dating story of my life. Laughing

WJMorris3 wrote:
Werel wrote:Maybe. Or this guy is being a jerk for some reason. Were you in contact with the date before you were supposed to meet her?

No I was not.

Was it a blind date then?

by WJMorris3 Mon Apr 11, 2016 12:47 am

The Mikey wrote:
WJMorris3 wrote:
I've got no idea. All I know is I probably did something wrong and I don't know what it is.

Heh, dating story of my life.

WJMorris3 wrote:
Werel wrote:Maybe. Or this guy is being a jerk for some reason. Were you in contact with the date before you were supposed to meet her?

No I was not.

Was it a blind date then?

It was.

by Wondering Mon Apr 11, 2016 1:13 am

Or it wasn't and he never actually set up at date, only set you up?

by **reboot** Mon Apr 11, 2016 1:28 am

Wondering wrote:Or it wasn't and he never actually set up at date, only set you up?

That is what my gut says happened. It sounds like a "joke" and a pretty assholish one. I might reconsider this friendship or at least letting this guy know much of anything personal about you.

by Guest Mon Apr 11, 2016 1:31 am

WJMorris3 wrote:
It was.

All right, tell ya, hwhat.

Blind dates are scary, it sucks that she bailed on you. I've been bailed on, and it sucks. Sucks so fuckin' hardcore, but it happens, sadly. Why exactly this person bailed on you, I don't nor do you know, so we can't really jump to conclusions since neither of us met them. Best to just live and let live.

What's bugging me though is, why did your "friend" give you shit for another person not going through with you. If I was your friend the least I could do is apologize and talk to the other person, I'm sure they have their reasons and that's fine, but kinda rude in my opinion. C'est la vie.

by **eselle28** Mon Apr 11, 2016 1:36 am

reboot wrote:
Wondering wrote:Or it wasn't and he never actually set up at date, only set you up?

That is what my gut says happened. It sounds like a "joke" and a pretty assholish one. I might reconsider this friendship or at least letting this guy know much of anything personal about you.

I am also of this opinion, especially since it's very unusual for either an online or a blind date these days to meet without having exchanged at least some variety of contact information.

by **reboot** Mon Apr 11, 2016 8:41 am

eselle28 wrote:
reboot wrote:
Wondering wrote:Or it wasn't and he never actually set up at date, only set you up?

That is what my gut says happened. It sounds like a "joke" and a pretty assholish one. I might reconsider this friendship or at least letting this guy know much of anything personal about you.

I am also of this opinion, especially since it's very unusual for either an online or a blind date these days to meet without having exchanged at least some variety of contact information.

That was exactly my thought. Even on blind dates, people swap numbers

by **Enail** Mon Apr 11, 2016 11:31 am

I agree with all the others saying it sounds like he was playing a mean joke, and that whether that's the case or not, this person is most emphatically not behaving like a friend. As Eselle points out, if he didn't think anyone would want to date you, to the point where he berates you for thinking otherwise, it would be really cruel to set you up on a date.

And I'm quite skeptical of the idea that that it could be that you did something wrong - if this had happened to someone else rather than to you, what do you think they could have done wrong? Is there something that would make it an action of kind friendship to say they're setting up a date for someone but then scold them for thinking anyone would want to date them? I can't think of anything (other than if the set-up-ee showed up wearing smelly, ratty clothes or something similarly blatantly off-putting, and then the set-up-er would tell them exactly what they'd done wrong, "take a shower! Who's going to want to date you if you can't even be bothered to put on clean clothes?")

by **reboot** Mon Apr 11, 2016 1:00 pm

In addition to what Enail said, it is pretty much impossible to do something wrong if you never had any contact with someone. It was a blind date, so you never met her, and you did not have her contact information, so you could not offend remotely. You kind of need to interact with someone to do something wrong

by WJMorris3 Fri Apr 22, 2016 1:56 am

I'm supposed to be taking a lady out to lunch tomorrow.

I say "supposed to" because I've been burned enough to expect it to fall through.

by Wondering Fri Apr 22, 2016 1:57 am

Did you make the arrangements with her yourself?

by WJMorris3 Fri Apr 22, 2016 2:19 am

Wondering wrote:Did you make the arrangements with her yourself?

This time, I did.

by **Enail** Fri Apr 22, 2016 12:24 pm

Hope it goes well!

by WJMorris3 Fri Apr 22, 2016 3:33 pm

So... um... apparently we got our wires crossed and she didn't show.

EDIT: Her phone's been acting up and apparently she's having some crappy health problems (literally), so we've rescheduled with no firm date.

by WJMorris3 Sat Jun 18, 2016 12:49 pm

Ugh. Was written up at work today because a customer alleged I "wasn't a real man" on account of saying Father's Day doesn't really fit me.

by **Enail** Sat Jun 18, 2016 1:02 pm

WTF, what a shitty boss!

by WJMorris3 Sat Jun 18, 2016 3:30 pm

Enail wrote: WTF, what a shitty boss!

Officially, it was for offending the customer. (I'd grieve but I managed to lose that right.)

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