Re: Rants

[nearly_takuan]

I don't see why a lawyer would lie, especially to family, as he'd have no incentive to do so. (Interestingly enough, I've been told no such provision exists on my sister as she can't pass on the family name anyway.)

In other news, here I am sitting at the bar, where I should be on a date, except she has no showed. It's only the first time for her but I'm starting to think the common link is me as all the no shows I've had have the common factor of me. I know I'm crazy to expect people to show up when they say they will but that was how I was raised.

o.O

I keep having to check just in case it somehow escaped my notice that we were the same person all along.

...Anyway, it doesn't sound to me as though they can be reasoned with if that's the case; for one thing, they're irrationally assuming that your sister can't pass on the family name. (I've got an uncle whose son has his mother's name, not because they've split or anything but just because they both agreed her last name was cooler. And as it happens he also has no male siblings or close cousins.)

I assume that either you don't want to adopt or that would also fail to satisfy them. If the former, they're angering me anyway by not respecting your choice. If the latter, though, I also find them to be profoundly hypocritical.

[WJMorris3]

o.O

I keep having to check just in case it somehow escaped my notice that we were the same person all along.

No, we're not the same person. I'm sure of that. Just a pair of people that prefer cake.

[Xexyz]

Ugh. I've been feeling somewhat depressed the past couple of days, and this cold is just making it worse. I just got over the stomach flu, now this.

[Robjection]

Ugh.  I've been feeling somewhat depressed the past couple of days, and this cold is just making it worse.  I just got over the stomach flu, now this.  

OK there is definitely something going around as both my mum and the woman who was supposed to be interviewing me in ~45 minutes have come down with colds too.

[Izmuth]

I don't see why a lawyer would lie, especially to family, as he'd have no incentive to do so. (Interestingly enough, I've been told no such provision exists on my sister as she can't pass on the family name anyway.).

Funny the difference in perspective, I would say that being family *is* of itself an incentive to lie. Your uncle's brother and sister (one of them in-law) wants grand kids, and apparently he's not above lying to his nephew to help them obtain them.

Because it's a fact he's lying. Unless you've cosigned debts, guarenteed a loan, or are currently married to your parents, you cannot be forced to inherit anything, much less debt.

Check with a lawyer that you're *sure* has no incentive to lie (no family friend, no family, no anything). Prepare to be disappointed in your uncle.

[reboot]

MOD

Can we either end the discussion of WJmorris' inheritance woes or (if you want t WJM) I can move it to a new thread. Rants is meant to be a 1-2 and done topic space

/MOD

[Guest]

As much as self-depreciative humour strikes a nerve with some folks (not 100% sure why but mine is not reason such things), I'll take it any day over the kind of mind-numbing and hollow positivity used to counteract it by some.

[WJMorris3]

MOD

Can we either end the discussion of WJmorris' inheritance woes or (if you want t WJM)  I can move it to a new thread. Rants is meant to be a 1-2 and done topic space

/MOD

Then the discussion should end and I'll gladly take the week's suspension for bringing up a prohibited subject (asexuality). I was warned on it earlier as the first mod notice ever on this board was a direct result of my being ace (in the online dating thread.)

[nearly_takuan]

Whoa, what? No, we aren't a prohibited topic; we just aren't supposed to have long discussions on things in this particular thread. It's on us for replying to stuff.

[Enail]

<mod> Discussions about your asexuality (or anyone else's, or the concept in general) are totally, 100% fine. WJMorris, what you've been told not to do here is talk about your controversial beliefs that all sex is rape or otherwise morally wrong. Even if that's the reason for you not wanting to have sex, it's still fine to talk about not wanting to have sex, just not about that motivating factor. (ETA3, out of order: and the first mod warning ever that you refer to was warning someone else against unacceptable comments against asexuality, and I think - I hope - we were pretty clear at the time that you were not in trouble and your comments were in no way provoking the problem comments)

ETA: And that's nothing to do with why this particular discussion was shut down - it was just getting to be too long a discussion of its own to continue in the Rants thread.

ETA2: And while I appreciate your eagerness to comply with mod requests, please leave it to the mods to decide whether suspension is warranted and so forth! Thanks!

</mod>

[PintsizeBro]

Instead of dividing bathrooms into "men" and "women," can we try dividing them into "people who can get all their urine into the toilet" and "people who don't care about leaving a mess for others"?

[BasedBuzzed]

Pig disgusting accelerant clickbaiters turning on your own only now: you foster this climate. You choose to highlight the dodgy cases because you know you know the clear-cut ones aren't as sexy. You choose to dramatize statistics without an ounce of nuance. You choose the vitriol-filled columns over concrete investigations and making this into a culture war that only highlights problems without making space for the solutions that have worked. I'll keep my distrust up, especially if I agree with what you barf out. If even academic work can't live up to its promise, the fourth estate might as well not even bother.

Twofer today:
Screw those double-standards-on-abuse message vids that feature a)petite, conventionally attractive girlfriend and hulking boyfriend, b)standard cheating suspicion scenarios instead of trivialities, and c)a boyfriend who gets merely slapped around and pulled while the girlfriend gets put in a chokehold and tossed around. Especially the latter utterly nukes the narrative. Have her kick him, hold him down to the ground, anything that actually looks serious. People can't assess the long-winded emotional damage as a passerby.

[Gman]

Dancing Scene Frustration Rant:

It's so annoying how your jerkbrain likes to F you over sometimes . So I met recently this beautiful women at my dance scene, but early on during our first conversation I learn she has a BF. I'm all like "Cool, whatever" and not really giving to much thought about it. So yesterday we finally dance together and it was beyond amazing! I was blown away by her & we couldn't stop dancing (we danced something like 5-10 times together - way more than I danced with anyone else there). I became addicted to the way she dances . It's kind of alarming how your emotions can completey screw you over like this and it makes me feel kind of helpless.

Life is so annoying like that - you crush on those that aren't available, but you don't really find yourself attracted to those who are available (and sometimes interested in you back).

But hopefully I MIGHT be going on a date with a cute girl from Okcupid (decided to give that another try), so that does help to straighten my thoughts and keep things in perspective. But still............................ God damn stupid jerkbrain!

[Guest]

This isn't much of a rant as it is a decompression; a friend of mine had a seemingly suicidal crisis. I knew he had some issues because of his parents, but idk wtf happened with him that a few comments about waking up dead, triggered some red flags for me and another as we were texting.

Thank god everything is okay

[Werel]

Oh jeez, Mikey, I'm glad your friend is okay. Sorry you're having to go through that.

[nearly_takuan]

[Guest]

Oh jeez, Mikey, I'm glad your friend is okay. Sorry you're having to go through that.

Thank you, we ended up pulling out the big guns, as in, his old youth group pastor, our old circle of friends, his parents and his sister. We went to look for him since he wasn't home. But everything seems to be okay now. I hope.

[Enail]

Mikey, so glad your friend is okay. Good for you for recognizing the signals and calling in help. Don't forget to look after yourself while you're supporting him!

[The Wisp]

I hate hate hate hate hate the no fap movement. So much pseudoscience and neo-victorianism.

[Guest]

Mikey, so glad your friend is okay. Good for you for recognizing the signals and calling in help. Don't forget to look after yourself while you're supporting him!

Yeah, I'll be fine. Yes, I was on edge, because my phone died on me, so I couldn't communicate with the bigger group. And IDK what was going on in my buddy's head. We weren't sure if he was being serious or not, but we didn't want to risk it. So, we rallied together texted his close friends and I called the Suicide Hotline; thankfully cops didn't need to be called. I know my homie's gonna be pissed at all of us, but if it means keeping him alive...

[InkAndComb]

My professor lectured my reading group because we were having a hard time believing the author of a childabuse novella.

Here is the thing; all of the readings we've done involve people who've had a hard time within the social work and service community.  We are also a diverse reading group; we don't always agree with each other's interpretations, but we respect them and take people's opinions under consideration.

His issue was that we were focusing on "truth versus personal truth", that we should understand she's coming from an emotional place and accept that her reality may not be ACTUAL reality.

But what we actually took issue with were a few key parts of the book; it was withdrawn (of her additional 3+ abuse books) from publication for validity concerns and libel (potentially), she accused a judge of saying that as a 10 year old she'd been seducing her parents (and that everyone she encountered agreed and documented this), and that she publicly has said she "remembered 5 instances of abuse and filled in the blanks to create a novel-length story".

In a client-to-professional setting, I would take everything she says at face value and work with that.  I would NEVER suggest the person in question was lying, or constructing their reality, or anything like that.  BUT, in a CLASS setting reviewing this as a piece of LITERATURE, I take issues that she is basically triggered and ranting the entire novel.  It feels too much, like nobody talked to her about what she was publishing and it came out too...regurgitated and fraught with inaccuracies.

In addition, the author is clearly going through a lot of problems in her life currently; I've been researching her twitter and her activism.  She claims to have sponsered an abuse group (that doesn't exist), she claims that newsweek was involved in getting her father arrested (which doesn't seem to be the case), she claims that she 'trapped' her father with a recorder and it was broadcast on national news (which also does not appear to be the case), and her book is not allowed to be put on shelves (which our professor claims it is, but it is not).

In addition, our professor HASNT READ THE WHOLE BOOK and is STILL SAYING WE ARE READING IT WRONG.

WHAT.

[jcorozza]

In addition, our professor HASNT READ THE WHOLE BOOK and is STILL SAYING WE ARE READING IT WRONG.

WHAT.

I....what? No.

[WJMorris3]

Dear customer:

The card is an Electronic Benefits Transfer card. In this state, it's called the "Families First" card. It pays for things through the Supplemental Nutritional Assistance Program.

Please don't refer to the card as "Obummer Money" or, even more offensively, "N*****bucks".

[Gentleman Johnny]

Holy fucking General Zod on a cracker! What made you think that sitting down with the venue to negotiate a legal contract that only I can sign, against my specific instructions and messaging me while it was going on would somehow be taken as "helping"?

Kicking someone out of the cast always feels like cutting off my own foot but when I ask for the specifics you negotiated and you refuse, making me go to the venue owner and tell him "she's not authorized to do that" before I can get them and then you tell me I'm stirring up drama? Holy fucknuts! I'm not the one making us look bad here!

Edit: I just wanted to add that reading Geek Social Fallacies has saved this crew more than once because I'm able to overcome my initial instinct to let toxic people stay around and poison the well.

[Wondering]

I need to stop reading the blog comments today. Mr. I'm A Stalker, But No, Not Actually is really upsetting me!

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