Re: Rants

by nearly_takuan Wed Dec 24, 2014 11:29 pm

^ Yeah, my parents were apparently appalled when they heard Jonathan Coulton's "Soft Rocked By Me" but they have no problem with Coldplay's "Fix You" or the Jackson Five's "I'll Be There" or any number of other pop songs that are way creepier.

Like, how is something that just sort of sounds like innuendo worse than "If you should ever find someone new / You know he'd better be good to you / 'Cause if he doesn't / I'll be there / (Just look over your shoulder, honey, ooh)"

by The Wisp Wed Dec 24, 2014 11:45 pm

nearly_takuan wrote:^ Yeah, my parents were apparently appalled when they heard Jonathan Coulton's "Soft Rocked By Me" but they have no problem with Coldplay's "Fix You" or the Jackson Five's "I'll Be There" or any number of other pop songs that are way creepier.

Like, how is something that just sort of sounds like innuendo worse than "If you should ever find someone new / You know he'd better be good to you / 'Cause if he doesn't / I'll be there / (Just look over your shoulder, honey, ooh)"

Perhaps they didn't play too close attention to the lyrics? I know half the time I don't particularly pay attention to the lyrics of a song, particularly pop songs.

I think you can actually make a defense of "baby it's cold outside", like here by appealing to the context of the characters in the song and social context of when it was written, though it's still creepy in certain ways (and even the most charitable interpretation still reinforces the coy woman who can't out and out say what she wants).

My father's reaction really peeved me, though. No discussion. Not even a "I don't want to talk about this", just anger and put-upon-ness. I said it half-jokingly, not in anger or criticism. Even when I said he could turn it back on he immediately interrupted and passive-aggressively said "no no, it's okay, don't want to listen to the 'rape song'".

by nearly_takuan Wed Dec 24, 2014 11:59 pm

I'd give 'em a pass if those weren't among their favorites to sing for karaoke. Wink

But yeah, probably cultural context and authorial intent changes some...just not all, and I can't think of a charitable interpretation of "Fix You" that doesn't actually move the context away from what is clearly the original intent of the song. (e.g. imagining that cancer has something to do with it)

by The Wisp Thu Dec 25, 2014 1:38 am

Most... Awkward... Christmas Eve event... Ever

by Gman Thu Dec 25, 2014 7:55 am

Welp, life it seems, had one more suprise left for me before the year ends. Yesterday, I went to my usual dancing place that I usually go on friday's but I decided to go this wednesday as well. Low and behold who do I see there as well............ my ex.
The first minute of identifying and realizing she is there as well, I suffered from the "deer in the headlights" behavior and pretty much froze in my tracks. A friend of mine came by literally two seconds later after I saw my ex, laughed and told me that the expression on my face was priceless (kind of a jerk behavior on his part but whatever).

It took a minute or two, but she then came by and did say hello. After that we each went to our seperate dance classes. After the classes, I went to the salsa hall to see if she was there. She was. We danced one dance...... a decision that I am still pondering wether it was the smart thing to do in the end. Because it reminded me why I fell for her in the first place to begin with.............................. she has this charm that I simply cannot resist Sad

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But it wasn't anything dramatic and after our dance I went back to my hall and pretty much had fun in general. I tried to see if she was there a short while after that, but she was no where to be found.... guess she left early because of me.... which made me feel bad about myself in general for "scaring" her off.

While the entire ordeal didn't really harm the amount of fun I had, it did feel like a certain weight on my mind throughout the entire evening. It's just REALLY hard seeing her again and realizing that I had nothing else happen ever since...

by BasedBuzzed Thu Dec 25, 2014 11:23 am

Googling stuff takes five minutes before dumping it on FB, why not save yourself the embarassment of having people correct you on something so farfetched?

by Guest Fri Dec 26, 2014 2:40 pm

I'm getting a little peeved at myself That any attempt to address my issues on this site leads to me devolving into a depressing "woe is me" rant instead of being constructive. There's a lot subconsciously wrong with me, and I'm not mentally suitable for a mate of any kind until I address it.

I just wish nothing was wrong with me in the first place, since I'm unbelievably ashamed of how unstable I am. I think I feel like I consciously do this to myself.

by Guest Fri Dec 26, 2014 9:44 pm

Fuckin USPS, man. I know they're only human, but holy shit how careless can you be when putting mail in people's boxes? I ordered some SD cards from Amazon and they were delivered today, yay!

Buuuut, they were put in the wrong mailbox. How can you fuck up so bad, I swear...

by caliseivy Sat Dec 27, 2014 4:35 am

The Mikey wrote:Fuckin USPS, man. I know they're only human, but holy shit how careless can you be when putting mail in people's boxes? I ordered some SD cards from Amazon and they were delivered today, yay!

Buuuut, they were put in the wrong mailbox. How can you fuck up so bad, I swear...

I've heard quite a few people complain about that recently even before the holidays. Our regular drivers apparently can't read or count so we often get mail for the house one number above or below ours, and mail for a house one street over that's not spelled anything like ours.

Now my mother's started inviting me to play candy crush. I want nothing to do with candy crush and stop asking me incredulously why I don't play Facebook games anymore. It's bad enough I have one person who invites me to multiple games daily. Why can't anyone take a moment to change the game's default settings?

And why is my phone suddenly insisting on doubling the first letter of every word I type?

by nearly_takuan Sat Dec 27, 2014 2:05 pm

Dad, when someone changes their name, they are guaranteed to be on the receiving end of many terrible "jokes" and feigned confusion in addition to actual confusion. She took it gracefully because she's had practice and because you're her uncle. But she didn't need that from you. (But thanks for letting me explain it to you in private and for agreeing with me quietly.)

Grandma, literally everyone has already noticed that the new name is unisex. But her sister, with whom she is very close, had been using the pronouns "she/her" all evening. And that's all you need to know right now. So just fucking stop with the rest. (And I wish I could have explained, but you'd just turn it into something about you, and never actually learn anything.)

god fucking bless us everyone.

by Guest Sun Dec 28, 2014 5:57 am

I just realised that I've invited two very heavy pot smokers to go see a Flying Lotus show where most people are going to be off their heads on something and I'll be there just going 'KEEP IT ALL AWAY FROM ME, PLEASE'.

That was not a good move for me from an awkwardness side of things. I actually trust these guys not to be pushy about me trying it, but it's going to be fucking annoying either way.

Ugh, why do I do this shit to myself? This is why I don't go out. Ah well. I've never really succumbed to peer pressure before, it won't happen now.

by Gman Sun Dec 28, 2014 7:23 am

MapWater wrote:I just realised that I've invited two very heavy pot smokers to go see a Flying Lotus show where most people are going to be off their heads on something and I'll be there just going 'KEEP IT ALL AWAY FROM ME, PLEASE'.

That was not a good move for me from an awkwardness side of things. I actually trust these guys not to be pushy about me trying it, but it's going to be fucking annoying either way.

Ugh, why do I do this shit to myself? This is why I don't go out. Ah well. I've never really succumbed to peer pressure before, it won't happen now.

Man I can REALLY relate to you. I have some friends that I decided to keep contact with them to a low intensity, because they are pretty big potheads, but not just constantly smoking but also just being really annoying about it, even when I clearly stated several times that I am not interested at all in smoking and that at least when they meet with me, to not smoke around me. They kept being jerks about it for a while, but I still didn't grow a backbone.
The thing that made me snap back into reality and cut some of the ties with them, was when I arranged a meeting back when I was still with my ex. It was me, my ex and my friends. I was really excited about her finally meeting my friends - but they quickly ignored both me and her and blatantly started smoking in front of us, in a small space with no air. Both me and my ex started to feel trapped and sufficated, so I told them we needed to go and bolted out of there. I felt humiliated, that this welcome that my friends gave to my then girlfriend. Later, I told them that I have had it with thier pothead mentality and that they needed to start acting like fucking adults and respect me, or we were over!
I still see them as friends but I am WAY more wary of them ever since and contact between us has been minimal ever since. Except for one of them who I am still in regular contact with, the rest pretty much dissapeared.

So my advice to you - find some friends who aren't potheads.... or at least potheads that respect you and your boundaries. It sometimes isn't easy (especially if your current social circle/culture events that you go to tend to attract the "pothead" social group) but it sure as hell worth it.

by Guest Sun Dec 28, 2014 8:54 am

Gman wrote:
MapWater wrote:I just realised that I've invited two very heavy pot smokers to go see a Flying Lotus show where most people are going to be off their heads on something and I'll be there just going 'KEEP IT ALL AWAY FROM ME, PLEASE'.

That was not a good move for me from an awkwardness side of things. I actually trust these guys not to be pushy about me trying it, but it's going to be fucking annoying either way.

Ugh, why do I do this shit to myself? This is why I don't go out. Ah well. I've never really succumbed to peer pressure before, it won't happen now.

Man I can REALLY relate to you. I have some friends that I decided to keep contact with them to a low intensity, because they are pretty big potheads, but not just constantly smoking but also just being really annoying about it, even when I clearly stated several times that I am not interested at all in smoking and that at least when they meet with me, to not smoke around me. They kept being jerks about it for a while, but I still didn't grow a backbone.
The thing that made me snap back into reality and cut some of the ties with them, was when I arranged a meeting back when I was still with my ex. It was me, my ex and my friends. I was really excited about her finally meeting my friends - but they quickly ignored both me and her and blatantly started smoking in front of us, in a small space with no air. Both me and my ex started to feel trapped and sufficated, so I told them we needed to go and bolted out of there. I felt humiliated, that this welcome that my friends gave to my then girlfriend. Later, I told them that I have had it with thier pothead mentality and that they needed to start acting like fucking adults and respect me, or we were over!
I still see them as friends but I am WAY more wary of them ever since and contact between us has been minimal ever since. Except for one of them who I am still in regular contact with, the rest pretty much dissapeared.

So my advice to you - find some friends who aren't potheads.... or at least potheads that respect you and your boundaries. It sometimes isn't easy (especially if your current social circle/culture events that you go to tend to attract the "pothead" social group) but it sure as hell worth it.

To be fair to these guys, they haven't given me guff. They have been good and, honestly, I don't care when people light one up and I'm there. It's the insistence on having some too and not knowing when to quit when I say no thanks that really gets me angry. I've gotten that from other people (unfortunately, most potheads I've run into or made acquaintances with) and it's just... frustrating. I don't even blink and eye when people light one up, so it's not like I give people guff for it.

Having had people do that to me enough, I think I've just defaulted to assuming they are going to do it to me. Hell, my best friends still urge me to drink when I've had enough. Which is really weird, because I can drink them both under the table. Eh, fingers-crossed these guys and cool about it and we can all just dig the music.

by nearly_takuan Sun Dec 28, 2014 5:10 pm

Non-stop entertainment of guests since the 20th, and there's still another week of this to go. I'm going to be spending so much time napping in my room with the door shut when this is all over.

by caliseivy Mon Dec 29, 2014 11:32 am

I had another restless night (and not because I haven't been active enough lately or going to bed at the right time so stop saying that) and you're spontaneously waking me up early and expecting me to just whip up a grocery list to go shopping with you when you know how much I hate shopping? Why exactly couldn't you suggest this trip last night when I had enough time to figure out what I might need?
If I do go, I don't have any ideas for stuff I need to get and will spend the morning slogging through the stores in a hate-filled zombie like state grabbing everything I don't need or nothing at all and you complaining about it, and if I don't go you're going to ride me more about just not wanting to get out of bed.
Don't do this to me right now. I'm still on vacation.

by azazel Mon Dec 29, 2014 1:25 pm

I'm possibly going to lose my anal virginity to a pretty woman in a few days!

...who I'll be paying.

...for a prostate exam.

Yaaaaay

by The Wisp Tue Dec 30, 2014 1:05 am

My Okc profile was visited today by a girl whose profile literally says, verbatim "Going to be 18 in February. But 17 is legal in CO".

Facepalm

by Guest Tue Dec 30, 2014 1:35 am

The Wisp wrote:My Okc profile was visited today by a girl whose profile literally says, verbatim "Going to be 18 in February. But 17 is legal in CO".

Facepalm

by The Wisp Wed Dec 31, 2014 12:19 am

Oh god, my father thinks he's an expert on politics, but he's really just pulling shit out of his ass from his own fantasy world.

Just for instance, he thinks Americans have a constitutional right to a high school education, when in reality education isn't mentioned at all in the constitution (and I've corrected him on this multiple times, he still says it).

by Guest Wed Dec 31, 2014 1:23 am

I'm pretty sure a nurse was hitting on me today.

I had to go in for a drug test and a physical for my new job (yes, I'm officially employed, 63 applications later), and the nurse kept fucking up the x-ray machine, so they sent in another nurse to retake all of them.

I asked her what was taking so long, and she says "well you're too muscular for the x-ray machine, it can't see anything." and starts giggling.

And awkwardly saying "you know, you're a very big and strong man, you know."

The nurse was like in her late thirties, very short, Hispanic, very cute.

And suddenly my completely inactive sex drive decides now is the perfect time to suddenly get like the worst erection in a while. I don't know how she didn't see it.

We spent more time play-flirting than taking the stupid x-rays, like "don't do anything stupid, big boy." And I'd reply "well quit distracting me!"

It was weird how well I was getting along with this random ass nurse, not to mention that it's the first time this has ever happened. So maybe I'm in better shape than I thought.

But the reason why I'm so mad is because the sexual tension (on my end) was intense, and I kept hearing a roaring noise in my ears of months and months of me psychologically blocking myself from getting aroused just falling away like that, and all that pent up energy coming out at once.

I mean, nothing happened, so this isn't some big giant porno scenario. Just odd flirting with someone old enough to be my mother, is all. Especially how fast that happened. But still, I'm peeved at myself for at least not asking for a number or something. I definitely like older women, that is for damn sure.

OK, I'm probably bragging a little, I'm sorry. It's been a long time since I can do that.

by nearly_takuan Wed Dec 31, 2014 2:17 am

Maybe this will all just become easier in twenty something years when I look old enough to drink. Or at least when wait staff don't look directly at me when carding the "party" and barbers don't respond to "actually I've graduated" by asking if I am in college.

by **Werel** Wed Dec 31, 2014 3:21 am

nearly_takuan wrote:Maybe this will all just become easier in twenty something years when I look old enough to drink. Or at least when wait staff don't look directly at me when carding the "party" and barbers don't respond to "actually I've graduated" by asking if I am in college.

On the very faintly bright side, at least you don't seem to drink much, so the former will be an infrequent experience... Neutral

by nearly_takuan Wed Dec 31, 2014 3:31 am

Most of the places to acceptably meet people and do things around here are 21-and-up places. And tonight it was just a sports bar some friends wanted to have dinner at.

But mostly what has me reacting negatively to this is: I never ask why, because asking why is a very That Guy thing to do, but more than one woman has volunteered the information that I look too young for her. And while I get not wanting to feel like you're committing a statutory crime even when you know you aren't...It's just one more frustration on my end of things and the only "solution" I can think of is to keep waiting.

by **Werel** Wed Dec 31, 2014 3:39 am

nearly_takuan wrote:Most of the places to acceptably meet people and do things around here are 21-and-up places. And tonight it was just a sports bar some friends wanted to have dinner at.

But mostly what has me reacting negatively to this is: I never ask why, because asking why is a very That Guy thing to do, but more than one woman has volunteered the information that I look too young for her. And while I get not wanting to feel like you're committing a statutory crime even when you know you aren't...It's just one more frustration on my end of things and the only "solution" I can think of is to keep waiting.

Eesh, yeah, hadn't considered simply going into a 21+ venue.

(From just the photos on your OKC profile, though, you don't look all that young-- if I saw you on the street I'd guess solidly early 20s, but still, eugh + commiseration.)

by nearly_takuan Wed Dec 31, 2014 3:49 am

Yeah, that's the other weird thing; I don't think I look that young either. So there might be some influence from posture or dress that I could correct somehow if I were more aware of it. Friends noticed and pointed it out (by laughing awkwardly) this time, though, so I know it's not just in my head.

Oh well. Just gonna sulk a bit more and then try to mentally prep for tomorrow's interview. Either way I'm not gonna get as much sleep as I ought. Razz

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